One thing I had to learn was how I spoke about being a single father (full custody). I had “growing pains” to put it lightly. I was hurt, resentful, felt betrayed, and spoke from anger about my child’s mother. As I’ve healed and became more aware of how to express myself, that is when change started to occur. I can take all the blame and feel at peace now because I have resolved it within me and for my child. It took nearly 2 years after separation, so it wasn’t a walk in the park by any means. These days, connecting with people is much easier because there’s not this blanket or wall of emotions that was hindering the connections others were willing to build with me. In the us, roughly 10% of custodial parents are fathers (resulting from cases) and estimated 2.5 million men are sole conservators. That’s less than 1% the USA’s population. So, it leaves me with a lot I wish we could discuss, but common ground isn’t often found. What I wish men would talk about more would be the ins and outs of their family lives. Balance, compromises, sacrfices, challenges, and what they proactively do for the family, other than “being a provider.” I get it. You make an income. They eat. Live. So does everyone in existence. Share with me something that I can take away from a conversation. But I understand it’s hard to showcase yourself in a negative, unfavorable light, but personally, honesty earns strength and respect. submitted by /u/itzybidzySPYder
Originally posted by u/itzybidzySPYder on r/AskMen
The OG reddit OP can probably expect further evolution in his feelings and emotional processing of the situation. I assume you can’t ever nail that one down. It’ll be waiting there in his mind in a couple of years when he’s on a long drive or laying down for bed. No shame in that either.
Since hitting my forties, i’ve really given up on modern society and its bullshit norms. I fucking hate sales people, marketers and advertisers. I value my privacy above convenience, and I think that data that defines me as me is more valuable than a discount on my next Taco Bell burrito.
It might make me seem crotchety, but it’s only honesty. If I feel like im being sold to or cheated or violated, im saying so in no uncertain words.
