This past week my girlfriend (of 3+ years) and I went to a wedding. My girlfriend was the maid of honor, so she indulged and got the most drunk that I have ever seen her. She doesn’t normally drink to excess (I’ve only seen her drunk a handful of times in our entire relationship), but it’s never been like this. Since we have been together for 3+ years and have been living together for ~10 months, engagement has been discussed extensively. I have already bought the engagement ring so at this point it’s just a waiting game for everyone (friends and family know I have the ring). Anyways, after the reception back at our cabin she started to cry happy tears for her friend and new husband (also noting here that I’ve never seen her drunk cry before). She said, “I just want to find someone that loves [bride] like [groom] does.” I didn’t give it too much attention since she was drunk, however I did ask, “Don’t you think that I love you that way?” And she said no… That hurt a little bit, but I let it go because 1) she was drunk and 2) I assumed she was joking. However, I stupidly asked, “Do you still want to marry me?” and she thought for a minute then replied, “I don’t know. I am just scared of being alone forever.” That really cut deep despite her being drunk. I didn’t say anything after that and quietly finished getting her ready for bed and we went to sleep. My girlfriend does not remember any of that and I have not brough it up to her (yet). I want to give her the benefit of the doubt because this is the first time something like this has happened, but I can’t get it out of my head. They say drunk people are honest, and it’s making me rethink going forward with the engagement. I feel stupid for giving it so much thought. Generally, I’d give a pass to most things that she (or anyone) would say while really drunk, but this is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. If those are her genuine thoughts about our engagement/relationship, I want to know. Yes, I know to ‘just communicate with her’ - and I will - but I am looking for opinions/advice/anecdotes on the situation before I do. Have any of you experienced a similar situation? How much weight would you give to a drunk statement like hers? Thanks. submitted by /u/Swahloma
Originally posted by u/Swahloma on r/AskMen