I’m in my early 20s and for the past couple of years I went hard on self-improvement. I was paying off my fees while studying full-time, training consistently, focusing on discipline, upgrading how I dress just trying to build myself properly in all realms. Part of that meant I distanced myself from a lot of people because I felt like I needed space to grow and stop wasting time. On paper I’ve improved a lot. But socially I’m basically back at zero. I don’t really have a solid friend group anymore. Most of the places I go are work and the gym, and people there already have their own circles, so it’s harder to break in when on my own. Because of that, I’m not meeting women the way I used to through mutuals or social events. Ironically, when I was more “average,” I actually had more opportunities simply because I was around more people. For the older guys here is this a normal phase? Did you ever isolate yourself to build and then have to rebuild socially from scratch? I’d really appreciate honest perspective from anyone who’s been through it. Also, I’d prefer advice for any real life avenues outside of dating apps. submitted by /u/Excellent_Medicine52
Originally posted by u/Excellent_Medicine52 on r/AskMen