I was a short fused kid. I got angry so easily and my speaking tone was definitely not very friendly. My parents never helped me manage it since my mom also yelled a lot. Dad was emotionally absent. Mom was mostly always in a bad mood, tired from work, busy taking care of her 3 younger siblings as well. It never registered to me that being angry isn’t the only reaction to big emotions. If you’re raised in Asian household, you know that parents never apologize either so I struggled with apologizing when I hurt someone with my words. I thought they’d just get over it, like I did when my parents snapped at me. When I got in college, I was blessed to meet a friend who helped me work on my anger. Idk why nobody ever told me the truth of how mt anger affected them. But he did, he told me once “Just because you have a shitty day doesn’t mean you have to make me have a shitty day too. I don’t deserve that.” He didn’t take my shit, called me out on it, but still never ditched me as a friend. I had to really learn how to apologize and manage my anger to keep my friendship with him. I found out my anger stems from a lot of things, mostly overstimulation. Went for a test and was confirmed on the autism spectrum. From there I learned how to minimize and work with my triggers. I also unlearned a lot of things that I got from my parents, like how to express feelings in a healthy way besides anger. Looking back, I wish I’d started working on my anger issues way earlier, I would’ve had more friends in school lol. If you were an angry kid, what helped you work through your anger? Or if you got any advice for kids or teenagers to work on their anger, what would it be? submitted by /u/daysof_I
Originally posted by u/daysof_I on r/AskMen
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