I’m not sure why but i am always having boys around me. idk if it’s because im bored or if something is missing within me. i’ve dated before and im fine with being single, it gives me the chance to go out and explore and maybe im abusing that. i dont think i can solve this with being in a relationship as i dont believe im ready for one at all. i don’t hookup with people, this is more so a virtual thing, i trade with boys here and there and thats enough for me. i dont feel like giving myself emotionally or physically to anyone at the moment. sex does not drive me to do anything despite me occasionally having my moments like everyone but i haven’t been in bed with anyone in over a year. i often abandon my drive for boys or like my need for attention from them, but every time i go cold turkey, i return back to adding boys on snapchat and getting their attention. i post shirtless pics or face pics to be validated by them whenever im bored. im a full-time student and instead of pouring back into myself when i have free time, i download grindr, look around to chat, then delete the app. it’s like i use boys to be entertained by them and call it a day. it’s not like im at the very least making meaningful connections. if anything they piss me off or cute but rarely i get a cute boy that i keep around. i basically get nothing but validation out of this, i know, but i keep returning to the same habits. i don’t care about these boys, yet, i want them to text me and entertain me however i see fit. i don’t have any dating apps, im only doing this on snapchat and sometimes instagram. if anyone has insights, ways to release this habit, or anything like that, please let me know. submitted by /u/Avolvv
Originally posted by u/Avolvv on r/AskMen
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