Good question. I dont know how to answer, exactly. But i can tell you that ive met ladies that i considered very beautiful, but i felt no sexual attraction. And ive met ladies that i considered to be ugly, but i felt very sexually attracted to. So i consider beauty and sex appeal different concepts.
Im a 26yo autistic man. Well i think i had problems regarding mental health. During childhood, i was bullied a lot. Kids would even drown my face in the toilet, let me breathe a bit, like the enough for me to survive, then drown again. Sometimes there was shit and/or piss there. Not the only kind of agression i suffered but the one that traumatized me more because it was disgusting and suffocating, and happened an awfully lot of times. I had some friends during age 11-15, but they werent from school, but neighbours. School was a dark and evil place for me, sadly.
My friends moved out of town when i was 16. I miss them to this day, they were 2 boys and 2 girls, i got the IG account of 2 of them but the other 2 i never found any kind of contact, sadly. But at least bullying stopped. My mental health recovered a bit, but i felt lonely. During college, people were more supportive of me, i felt like i was respected and in a community.
I got the diagnosis of autism 3 years ago. Honestly, late, i wish i was diagnosed as a boy. But im happy that im able to enjoy knowing about my identity, i feel free. During this time, i also joined therapies. Im thinking of joining sexual therapy too. Definitely, therapies and college helped my mental health a lot. I feel happy these days.
Thats my personal experience, but i think that, in general, for guys, theres less incentive to search for mental health professionals. Youre supposed to “man up”…id always suggest for a guy to do therapy though. Therapy is good.
Cant answer that. I have clinically higher sex drive than average. However, id guess society, being patriarchal, would judge men that arent really that interested in sex.