Hi everyone. I had posted this in another subreddit and got an overwhelming number of conflicting comments, so I’ll try here. I met this guy online and we’ve been on 4 dates so far (5th one this weekend, yes it’s going slow but I don’t mind). He’s a lovely guy and we get along well, i’ve met his family and friends, he offers to drive us around to places which i’m very appreciative of. One thing that’s bothering me a bit is that he hasn’t offered to pay for anything. I can understand at the start that you might not wanna spend money on someone you might not see again, but as I said we’re 4 dates in, going on 5. It’s not even necessarily restaurants, like for example he was raving around this €1-2 milk-drink and I said I wanted to try it so he drove us to the shop. He picked up 2 cartons and I assumed one was for me, then he stood there staring at me for while before asking “why aren’t you grabbing one?”. Or another occasion when we were going to a cafe, and he questioned me on what my favourite coffee was (sounding like he was going to get it for me), but proceeded to only order for himself. And before people say “well what have you bought him?”, I did pay for tickets to an event for us once, not crazy expensive but still. I suppose I’m just not used to this dynamic, most relationships/dates ive been on the guy always pays for dinner, or they’d be very insistent on buying me a drink at the shop if I was thirsty. I’d never expect anyone to always pay for me, I have no issue paying for my own stuff, but it makes me feel almost a bit unworthy that he’s never offered? not even a cheap coffee or €1 drink? He seems pretty invested otherwise, i’m supposed to go to a dinner with his family soon. What do you guys think? Am i being pedantic? How come he’s hasn’t offered? submitted by /u/kittycatmr
Originally posted by u/kittycatmr on r/AskMen
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